The Power of Authentic Affirmation

Most dads love their kids deeply. But loving your children and knowing how to intentionally communicate that love aren’t always the same thing. In this episode of the Father Friend Podcast, Mike Ayers explores the power of authentic affirmation and how fathers can help their children develop a secure sense of worth. Using the words spoken by God the Father at Jesus’ baptism, Mike identifies three things every child needs from Dad: belonging, affection, and delight. Mike also shares the personal “I’d Choose You” routine he used with his own children and offers a simple, practical way to make affirmation more specific and meaningful: "say what you saw, say what it tells you about them, and say why it matters to you." Because affirmation isn’t empty praise. It’s intentionally helping your children know they are loved, valued, and worth knowing—long before their performance or accomplishments enter the picture.